In a recent online poll of over 1000 married and dating menopausal women, we asked the question: “Do you prefer a long term relationship or a short term one?” We received a number of responses ranging from never into long term. As men age, they often begin to experience what is known as menopause, during which their sex drive wanes and they become less interested in intimacy. Most of these men began their relationships with their partners at an age when they were well into their 30s and were well into their forties. Now that they are approaching the end of their lives, how would they rank their relationships during this time period?
Overall, long term relationships seem to last longer than those that happen within the first few months of a relationship. However, many of these relationships end within the first few years, as both partners’ interest wanes and the relationship begins to fall apart. Not surprisingly, when these relationships do end, the partners often feel less emotionally connected to one another or might seem less committed to the relationship than they once were. They might also begin to notice other relational problems that bother them throughout their lives or feel Resolved about unresolved issues. This might seem like a cruel reality, but it is a reality for many people who reach middle age and might seem like they have hit a career wall.
If your goal is to have a long term relationship with a partner who will be with you forever, you must remember that having sex with someone new can be disheartening for some people. The fact that your partner might not be as excited about the idea of another intimate encounter with you at this point in your life might seem unfair. However, if you want to have a happy and satisfying long term relationship with a person, you must remain interested in intimate moments even if you are no longer physically together. Try to think of this as a new relationship, one that will not be as quick or easy as the relationship you had before. If you stay focused on this goal, you will find that you can have a long term relationship with a person who is right for you.